Going Back To My Roots, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey, People's Perception on Natural Hair

My view on why girls straighten their hair …

It’s been more than a month since My Big Chop: A preview of my “Big Day! 😀 Throughout this month I have learnt so much about what people think of natural hair in general. Especially, black natural hair ‘it’s not neat’ or ‘it’s not normal’. I have a very short TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro) and I love wearing it, I never put a doekie on it throughout this month at varsity, or even when going out I proudly wear my afro I love it. ❤

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You are a Queen and your mane is your Crown – Flaunt it ❤

However, there are some people who don’t love it as much as I do. Yes, this is expected when making such a big change to your physical appearance and doing something out of the ordinary even if it means colouring your hair purple! Well, they make it known to me because of the looks they give me and the things they say to me. On the other hand, thanks to those people on the street and my friends and family for all the sweet words means a lot ❤ .. Just what I need during this big change in my life.

From the get go on the day I cut my hair my mother came home and told me that my hair doesn’t look nice and I asked her what you mean as she said she’s just being honest I laughed it off and said I don’t care lol but she has since accepted my hair (she didn’t know I was going to cut it – maybe that’s why she was so surprised XD ).

Family members, on the other hand, keep asking me why I did it even though it has been a month now and that I have a ‘korrel kop’. Now, don’t get me wrong I know they mean it as a joke but now younger ones heard this and have been calling me it and I must admit it does hurt but then I just remind myself why I’m doing it.

On another occurrence, I was walking about 3 weeks ago to university, along
the road construction is taking place and the guys working there are always kind and greets me and I obviously greet back it’s just in my nature. However, on this day I was walking with my head down and one of these guys greeted me and said: “Morning” I looked up and greeted him back you won’t believe what he asked me: “Oh are you a coloured?” I asked him: “What??” and he repeated his question I said: “Yes, why you asking me that??” and he said: “Your hair is so short so I thought…” I just walked on I couldn’t believe what that man said. I don’t know how to feel about that incident but it’s just another depiction of what people think of women. They have this perception of what a woman should look like before they talk to you or get to know you they make inferences about who you are by looking at your physical appearance and it’s really sad.

I cut my hair and now have an afro and now I don’t physically ‘qualify’ as being myself, as being my own culture??

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As a young woman, I made a decision that was for myself which is not what most woman can say at this age. We are pressurised and wanting to be like this and that one because it’s what society and guys like. That’s all good and well (if it’s what you prefer) but if a guy doesn’t like you for who you are then he doesn’t deserve you girl, don’t try and be something that you are not.

‘Pitte kop’, ‘korrel kop’, ‘brush your hair it doesn’t look right’, is why I damaged my hair with a flat iron for more than 15 years of my life. No one wants to hear these words every day it definitely dampens your self-esteem and makes you feel like you don’t belong, you doing something wrong.
Think before you talk  ‘Words Are Powerful’ when it is uttered it can’t be taken back.

You don’t have to change a thing the world should change its heart ❤ – Alessia Cara
This song motivated me to do this and whenever I get a look, a stare or a harsh word because of my hair I listen to it and it makes me realise that I’m beautiful just the way I am. ❤ 🙂

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One Month Update on my Natural Hair Journey.. <3

This month I have taught myself so much about who I am, and I am extremely proud of myself and how I had the courage to do this with my hair.
I am a ‘girly-girl’ as I call myself so often, lol but I am proudly so. With that being said my hair was my everything because it was part of who I am and the girly persona was portrayed with my hairstyles, my hair was a part of my image and my dress code. But now “it’s just hair” like literally, I’m not saying forget about it, take care of it and nurture it but don’t let it determine who you are as a person.

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When I cut my hair I thought this will change who I am as a person, it actually did change who I am it made me a better version of me! I am more confident and my hair makes me believe that I am able to make bold decisions. Cutting my hair was one of the boldest things I have EVER done. Many people told me they didn’t think I’d be able to do this. Okay, guys sorry I am babbling too much… XD

In my next blog, I will talk about the reactions I got from my family, friends and even strangers on my hair. However, this is an update on my hair lol. As I said in my previous blog my hair will love me for big chopping and apparently she really does! 😀

My hair has been growing slowly but it is fuller and much healthier than before. Looking at the pictures above you can see there isn’t much difference in length but along my edges, you can see the fullness, so I think my hair is just repairing itself now before it decides to grow in length. But girl, I’m waiting patiently on you! (I’m enjoying this length so much now

My daily routine is very simple I watched Daye La Soul’s video on Hair Types and Textures (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkWhewD0AWc) and learnt more about my hair type and I found that the LOC (Leave-in, Oil, Cream) method is best for me because I have very dry hair, thick strands, and dense hair.

LOC Method

So I spritz it with water, then I apply some Micro-Keratin leave in mixed with Placenta, then some Avocado oil or coconut oil and lastly, Auntie Jackie’s curling custard in circular motions onto my hair. Or I just comb it all out and rock my TWA! 😛
Then I use some gel and apply it to my edges/baby hairs using a toothbrush.
Currently, this is the only method I use until it is long enough to do some cute styles which I can’t wait for. ❤
Thanks for taking the time to read this… ❤

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’

Big Chop, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

My Big Chop: A preview of my “Big Day”

So I am sitting here about to cut my hair, but I’m waiting for the proper size comb that I want to cut my hair with. I’m starting to hesitate as to whether it’s really necessary and if I’m not short enough already.
Your hair as a girl/woman as I’m turning 24 (I’m still young at heart so saying that is a bit scary LOL) is your femininity it shouldn’t be though because your hair shouldn’t determine who you are as a woman and how you are portrayed and treated!
Cutting or removing that feminism can be a very scary step for any woman. I’ve watched many big chop videos and ladies started crying because they looked like a man or was scared of what people would say about this new look. On the other hand, there were ladies who loved their new look and embraced the journey. Some ladies start from transitioning and some start after the big chop it’s all dependent on how damaged your hair is. I started with transitioning, I spoke about it in my previous blog Going Back to My Roots. I transitioned for 2 months but the plan was always to cut it all at some stage.
So, as I’m sitting here waiting for my cousin to get the clippers and the right size comb I wonder what will my view on my hair be. I can be confident now and say I’ll love it either way but like my mom says “your hair frames and ‘makes’ your face”. So will this new look suit me? Will it ‘frame’ my face the way I’m hoping it will?
Well, its  risk I have to take to start my natural hair journey the right way and get rid of this damaged hair like the girls say in their vlogs “it’s just hair”.

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Before the big chop

So I cut my hair eventually approximately 5 hours after I typed up the previous section.
That gave me ample time to contemplate and I did very much so, to a point where I was thinking to myself this is unnecessary how am I going to manage my TWA but thank goodness for YouTube videos that won’t be a problem. ❤
I waited for my cousin but he ended up saying he needs to fix his car and I being a very stubborn and impatient girl decided to do it myself. I had a smart idea to cut my hair with a scissor first. Yeah, you can tell I didn’t know what I was doing and cut the left side of my head way too short. Wish I knew before DIM (Doing It Myself) to not pull my hair when cutting it. It shrunk back so much and yeah then I realised there was a whole in my head pointed out by my grandmother. XD
Anyway, I used a size 4 comb for the clippers and cut away… Seeing and feeling my hair fall was a bit of a shock I was starting to giggle repeatedly asking myself “what are you doing” LOL!
I’m going to be honest, and say I didn’t like it at first (more so when my sister’s daughter asked me to cut her hair as well she also wants to look like a boy!) but after a good wash and applying some oils, it was looking as beautiful as I expected!

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After the big chop

I love my hair and I’m going to make the best of it! Won’t have to stand hours in front of the mirror anymore before varsity hehe at least for a few months LOL. 😀

Essentially, just take the risk and do whats best for your hair. Your hair and yourself should have a relationship if you treat it right it will treat you even better! 🙂

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’ ❤ – Coco Chanel

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Going Back to My Roots

Growing up I always hated my hair. Let me rephrase, not while growing up this actually ended in November 2016 when I started realizing how gorgeous girls looked with their natural hair. On university I always admired them. Their hair looked healthy, shiny just extremely beautiful now this would make me sound envious. Well maybe I was, but it made me realize if they can love their hair this much, I can too. Okay let me take it back a notch.

My mother took care of my hair very well she didn’t relax it much and it was always neatly plaited for school and church so my hair was growing healthily. When I was about 5 years old my grandmother took it upon herself to take a hair clipper and cut my hair because at the time I had sores on my head but my mom told me she was about to take me to a clinic the next week when she got off work. Meanwhile she was using a cream to ease the itch and resolve the problem. Long story short my hair was gone and my mom struggled to get my texture back to  the way it was. Anyway, as I grew older I noticed other girls’ hair those girls in my class and my friends with the sleek hair and I wanted that leading to me relaxing and blowing and dyeing and straightening to the point where I even used an ordinary clothing iron to straighten my hair. I was obsessed. I wanted hair like those girls and I was going to go to all lengths to get it. While I was never aware of what I was doing to my hair, my authenticity, my culture, my self esteem, my ME!

I made myself believe that my hair only grew to a certain length (not very long as I thought), because when it reached that length it would stop growing. Aah that was a big lie, what I now know is that my hair was breaking faster than it was growing. I used to live by my pony tail on high school even at university which lead to my hair breaking off so bad at the point of its growth. My aunt owns a hair salon and she does my hair like no one else can but I was always afraid to go there not because she’s a horrible person (LOL XD ) but because of how I damaged my hair I would have a recurring appointment with her and she would bring my hair back to life and I’ll just mess it up again in the comfort of my own home.

Early 2016, I bought myself a flat iron GHD an original one at a hair salon a beautiful gold one meanwhile I don’t know how to use it so it never made my hair the way I wanted it to be. However, when my aunt and sister used it, their hair came out beautiful so it’s just me. Anyway I stopped using this GHD that I paid so much for because now I was on a new journey. A journey of self reflection and finding myself.
My mind set changed completely since I saw various natural products make headlines on my Facebook LOL! It was always there but it just started catching my eye. I told my mother about it and she just said it’s your hair do with it what you want (she says I wasted my money buying a GHD when I now want to keep my ‘kroes kop’  looking like that). XD
I decided I will do the big chop for my sisters wedding I went very short but the problem is the damaged hair was still there.

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The day after the big chop.

My sister had a  beautiful small wedding and I as her maid of honor was proud to witness it.

With that being said now my hair is still not what I would like it to be and what I know it could be so I have decided to go shorter. I don’t really care what people say about how I look I care about myself and my own well being. I do expect to get bad looks on those bad hair days but I’ll clap back with my hair on fleek days hehe! 😉

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I’m not expecting my natural journey to be sunshine and blue skies but I’m ready to do the MAJOR CHOP and get it started I’m sure my hair will love me for it.
Thanks for taking time out to read my first introductory blog (long I know LOL sorry) I hope you will enjoy sharing this journey with me 🙂 ❤

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’ – Coco Chanel

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~ All about the My Hairstory ZA event 🌸~

Upon entering the venue we were welcomed by a beautiful face with two cute buns and a sunflower head band!  She was vibrant and energetic just what I needed since my sister and I have been in town since early hours of the morning.  If only I knew there were special goodie bags with Design Essentials in I would’ve asked her, lol I’m just kidding! 

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My sister and I got us some champagne (not everyday you drink champagne hehe I had to have two ) and made ourselves comfortable. This was our first event so we were a bit weary not knowing what to expect, heck we didn’t even know what to wear (I had to go look at pictures of the 2016 event to see what they wore). Seeing all these beautiful, confident, content, and glowing faces inspired me because that’s exactly what you should portray to show people that you can feel this way too if you go this route. I have to admit Cape Town you devil you have some gorgeous ladies! I am a feminist (not a sexist) I love seeing females excel. And here you could see women celebrating women!  Being surrounded by beautiful women that support one another is a rare occasion.

Okay, so my sister and I had to buy ourselves these gorgeous earrings by Denise Erasmus!  I absolutely love them and the cute caption on my sister’s pair is just hilarious but so true! 

I bought myself this beautiful bag at #CapeTownCurly ‘s vending station the caption gives me life! 

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The #TwistedSista and #TropicIsleLiving vending station has some amazing discounts of upto 40% I had to buy myself a satin bonnet for only R30 usually it goes for like R70 in the shop! I took some pictures at the banners to enter a competition offered by #StyleStudio. Yes girl, there were competitions, discounts and giveaways galore! Any naturalistas dream because these things are not cheap! I tried to visit each stall between talks but I couldn’t. Amongst other things raw shea butter, black soap and beautiful head scarfs were available at the event.

Now coming to the talks we got some tips on how to start a brand and your own product line, how to build your brand online using Instagram, how to live your brand daily (dressing the way you want people to see you), how to eat according to your hair goals and lastly how to look after your scalp to allow your hair to grow healthily and strong! We listened to a beautiful poet who summed the importance of having such an event in today’s generation and society up into a few beautiful sonnets. 
Lastly, we had a panel discussion about your rights in the workplace as a natural who wants to wear her mane out carefreely! We got legal advice from a beautiful lawyer whose mane got me mesmerized!
I’m finally done.. 
Thanks #LindiwevanStaden, owner of the #MyHairstoryZA event!  I’m grateful that I got a chance to thank you in person as well!  You’re such a beautiful soul! I’ll be there next year you can bet on that!  No one should have to miss out on such an event its empowering to say the least, book your tickets early to not miss out next year!

 

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~ Wash Day in a Bottle regimen💆‍ ~

Wash day can be a pain when you have braids as most of you might know who has or has had braids in. I watched a video that really helped me and essentially made my wash days 100 times easier and I hope it will help you guys as well.

So, since I have a TWA my hair is prone to popping out along the sides of the braids and this is because as you guys know our manes does not want to be tamed. I made peace with this and I let it pop out but to limit the amount of hair especially for those of you that have longer hair than mine this will be very helpful. Basically, I call it my bottled wash day because that’s literally what it is.

Firstly, I use a spray bottle and pour some of my shampoo in it and mix this with hot water and pour enough to allow it to foam up well enough. Then I start on the side of my head flipping the rest of the braids to the opposite side of where you want to start washing. Spray it onto your roots and using the pads of your fingertips just rub your scalp and roots (N.B. do not use your fingernails you will just be breaking your hair) because your hair is most fragile while it is wet ay.

Secondly, I use the same spray bottle for my conditioner (thus, I just use enough shampoo or I just use the rest on the length of my braids in order to get the ends of my hair). Do the same process mixing the water and conditioner, spray onto your roots and scalp. Rinse it if it is not a leave-in. I guess I shouldn’t be telling y’all this you obviously know.. Hehe sorry!

Finally, to complete my wash day I use the LOC in a bottle! Lol, yep I said! It’s pretty self-explanatory… So, I mix hot water (Liquid), oil (any oil of your choice) and cream (I use Curl La La, for now). I spray this on my hair and just let it dry it will have a white residue at first but once it dries your A-For-Away!
So yep that is my hair regimen it is much similar than this essay makes it out to be guys! Hope it makes your wash day with braids as easy as it has mine!

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~ Peaceful Sleep with Braids 💤 ~

Hmmm.. I know that title sounds a bit contradictory. Its a pain sleeping with braids or any kind of synthetic hair that does not belong to you (well, that’s just my opinion). So, let me try and explain this as simply as possible because I always tend to exaggerate things.. 🙈 😏

So I use two doekies for my night time routine. I use the one to tie my hair up into a high ponytail. I wrap it around twice to secure it then I use the same doekie to make a loose bolla and I wrap the doek twice again to secure the bolla. Okay that’s step one, now I use the other one and wrap it around my head and if its big enough wrap it around the bolla as well so that its not too heavy on your head at night.

That’s it guys! 😊
You can apply oil to your scalp at night as well, but I do this once or twice a week to prevent product build-up as much as possible.
Soooo… I hope this helped you guys! ❤ Welcome to all my new “likers” ☺ my page has been visited often even while I wasn’t active and I’m really grateful it means that I’m doing something right!

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~ Box Braids – Protective Styling! ~

Hey ladies!

Sooo.. I haven’t posted in a really long time because (yes, I have the same excuse) I have been busy guys with being a student, working odd jobs at campus and everyday life. I’m still learning to juggle all those things – time management is a scarce skill!
So enough complaining.. I told you guys I will be posting about my braids soon ay and the day finally came although it is 2 weeks later!

I absolutely love them guys they allow me to make so many styles. I decided on the box braids and had them done by a woman whose passionate about braiding so she took great care of my hair.

Before I had them done I done the LCO method to lock in moisture and protect my hair while in this style. I have them in for 2 weeks now and will be keeping them in for a few more weeks because they still look very good.

I will be posting about my hair regimen while it’s in this protective style and how I sleep with them.
So keep an eye out for that and no not in the next 2 weeks.

‘I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am the soul that lives within <3’

 

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~ Review of Prizes I’ve Won 💞 ~

I am so overwhelmed because of the prizes that I’ve won. I still can’t believe that I’ve actually won them! I always thought that I can’t win anything I’ve entered so many competitions and I’ll never win them I’m not only talking about natural products but in general. Thought maybe I’m just bad luck.. And stopped entering any competitions. 😣 As you all know it can become demotivating. I’m actually getting emotional talking about it. But I’m here to tell you guys keep supporting and keep entering those competitions because soon you well get your chance. 😊 😌

I won double tickets to the My Hairstory ZA 2017 event on Saturday in Cape Town! 😍 I will be sharing some pictures about this event that I will be sharing some pictures about that event on here. My camera will definitely be charged over night for that day 😅

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I also won a Tropical Isle Living Jamaican Black Castor Oil Hamper valued at R 700!! 😱 😱 😍 Saying that still surprises me so much thanks so much to Style Studio in Cape Town! The key is to tag/mention as many people as possible in the comment section, and share as many times as you can! And oh, make sure they like and share as well! That’s what I done and it actually worked! 😁 Check out their page and just see how many people I tagged 😅 (I thought I was being a nuisance 👀).

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Basically the purpose of this post was to let you guys know that I will be sharing the experience with you all. How the JBCO works for me, since I’ve always fantasized about using these products! 😁
P.S. Sorry to the bad picture quality.
#GodWorksInMysteriousWays
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#MyHairstoryZA2017
#NaturalHair
#GoingBackToMyRoots

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Blog Avatar in Progress

Hey everyone. 

I asked my friend Ruwaan Adams whose a graphic designer / illustrator / digital artist / concept artist to create an animated image for me with my big chop so I could use it as my avatar for amongst other things my blog. I thought he forgot because he was so quiet about it so I reminded him yesterday. While I was busy with some school work I got this picture!  I have absolutely no words its beyond what I expected! It illustrates my hair so perfectly, my eyes are really that big  and everything about it is just absolutely gorgeous! 

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Step 1: Drawing.
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Step 2: Inking.
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Step 3: Digitizing.

Thanks Ruwaan! I have always known you were an amazing artist but ay with this one you outdid yourself! 

Please like his Facebook page (Ruwaan Artwork) if you guys want to get into contact with this local and amazing artist! Support local talent! 

 

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– Prep’ing hair for Braidings💆 –

Hey everyone! 

Soooo… I have to concur with the other naturals that tried the egg and mayonnaise! 
Okay, so I cheated a little bit I didn’t use real mayonnaise because I felt abit anxious about putting it on my hair afraid that it would smell sour. So I substituted it with my Ultimate Organic Therapy Leave-In Liquid Hair Mayonnaise (mouth full I know). It plays the same role as the organic mayonnaise and it doesn’t smell sour. 

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The egg and mayonnaise mixture is really amazing it does something to my hair that nothing I have tried has done before!  Its super soft, shiny, the elasticity is insane and it just bounces right back when I stretch it! Shrinkage is a sign of health and shrinkage is on overload here, girl! 
Okay let me track back on how I prep’d my hair.
I washed my hair Friday using Palmer’s Conditioning Shampoo and then conditioned it used the Repairing Conditioner of the Palmer’s range. 💁💆
Okay, I let that sit for a while while I mixed the egg and mayo mixture.
I used:
1 x egg
1 tbspn of Hair Mayonnaise
1 tspn Coconut oil
1 tspn Olive oil
1 tspn Placenta (just for that extra something something)
I mixed it in a bowl using a fork lightly whisking it.

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Alright, I put all that on my hair after rinsing the conditioner. Put on a shower cap but that didn’t stop the mixture from dripping so I used wrapped cling wrap over the cap and rocked my Doek! 
I had to go to youth so yeah the smell of mayonnaise wouldn’t have been pleasant. 
I kept it on over night rinsed it off and LCO’d my hair. As you all know the LCO method is ideal for dry and low porosity hair! So its drying now for the braiding process 
Even touching my hair now it feels like a lamb  its just so soft I have to stop myself touching it every time!
I have to admit in terms of growth I don’t see any. So I don’t fully agree with the 1cm or more growth over night. Or maybe its because I didn’t use the organic mayonnaise. 😳 I’ll definitely use it next time when I’m not on my way to youth. 
I’ll post some pictures for you of my protective style soon. 
Thanks for reading ladies I hope it helped guys! 

Bye for now.