Going Back To My Roots, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey, Uncategorized

– New Outlook On Life 🌏-

Being natural has changed the way I look at people and life in general. It may seem cliché but honestly I have noticed this for a while. I see the beauty in women more so who accepts themselves. I may be biased but its a blessing, more so its courageous to be natural. 

I’ve seen all the posts about how ladies are discriminated against for embracing their natural hair, and I want to share this with you. I too have been discriminated against on two occasions (some people just don’t have the guts to ask), I’ve been asked if I’m coloured. I will post the blog post on this topic soon. I am coloured but I am also African and is it not okay too look like an African Queen that I am in my home land?  This question can bring up an array of questions that I don’t want to delve into now.

It’s important for us as naturalistas to support one another. You may be the one reassuring voice that that lady wanted to hear. Telling her she’s beautiful, her hair is beautiful, she is welcome to be herself. It goes deeper than just a voice. 

#BlackisBeautiful #GoingBackToMyRoots #HairGoals

I brightened a beautiful girl’s day up like that. I am an introvert by nature but I was just obsessed with her kinky TWA.  I was hesitating to tell her but the smile she gave me thanking me warmed my heart. 

I’m not saying go out there and constantly compliment girls on their natural hair but if God puts that urge in you to say it do just that. She might just need it. 


Going Back To My Roots, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

The Quest to Finding my Holy Grail Product…

Finding your ‘Holy Grail’ product is not easy. I’m not proud of all the money and time I spent on all these products. However, its all part of finding a product that works for your hair, because after all we all different ay.


I have two brands that I’m trying out at the moment they both work amazing for my hair. However, since my hair is so short I’m only wanting it to be moisturised and tamed. Both these brands help me in doing just that. They make my hair super soft and manageable. However, I didn’t have a decent detangling product and I bought this ‘Knot On My Watch” by Auntie Jackie’s to see if it will help with the detangling process and minimise my hair loss. I’ll post the results on here after I do that in a few since I’ll be washing my hair later on.

A few hours later…. (Spongebob commentator voice) XD

I’m back with a review on the ‘Knot On My Watch’ detangling therapy.

When I applied it on my hair it felt very light, which is not ideal for my dense hair. Thus I used a generous amount which it stipulates on the product anyway, the comb didn’t ‘glide’ through though as it states on the product but it wasn’t as tangled. Only the very tangled parts which are the sides of my head which I sleep on that was a bit of a hassle as usual.
One bonus of the product that I loved was the little hair that was left on the comb after I detangled! That was one of the ways I could see that it helped with my detangling. I loved it so much made my hair soft, I’m sitting with it on my hair now after I applied AJs All purpose oils. I’m about to pull out the massager to massage my scalp!


Hope this was helpful

Bye for now 👋

Father's Day, Fathers of Little Girls, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

– Father’s of Little Girls –

Late Father’s day post.

Since it was Father’s day this past Sunday I would like to speak to father’s of little girls and ladies. Who can argue that regardless of age you still your father’s little girl??

I am a young strong woman thanks to my mother because my father wasn’t there for most my life. I always and still do long for a father figure in my life. No man, uncle or brother can fill that void other than your own father but I am content that he will never do that because his tried umpteenth times but the things of the world is more important to him.

Okay, let me bring you guys to the reason for this post. Few days after I big chopped my father came to visit and he didn’t like this new look at all. He, like many other fathers like their girls to look like girls (apparently they don’t look like I do ). He asked why I did it and I told him I had to, my hair was damaged and I want my hair to be healthier and he looked at my hair and then changed the subject.

I am sure this won’t reach many men but those that it does reach I want to say you are doing a good job and continue doing so.

You, father’s of little girls, I’m sure not even you have found yourself, your identity, your YOU. People are designed to ask questions so we will continue looking for ourselves in all ways. Little girls look to their father’s for that identity. Many people told me that a father determines what a woman looks for in a man one day. Makes sense right because you are the first example she has of that in many ways, this is true however it’s up to them if they didn’t have a good example.

Anyway, when they make big decisions like I did which was to big chop they look for reassurance that it’s okay but sometimes father’s don’t reciprocate the happiness that she needs during this big time of her life.

It’s very important to show her that she’s beautiful even though she has no to little hair, essentially it will grow back.  Support her in this journey and show that you support her it will definitely boost her confidence because you agree.

Educate yourself on what it means to go natural, and show that it’s okay for her to love herself enough to take this big step.

From my own experience with my father and also the reaction of my mother when I big chopped led me to write this because it is what I hoped they’d say to me. I’ve heard from many girls like my friend who by the way has what is called type 2 hair when she cut her long hair to shoulder length her father ignored her when she came home because he believes ‘girls should have long hair.’ As aforementioned it’s just hair it will grow back and for now until then just support her.

Benny and his daughter Jaxyn Harlem ❤

To the ‘little girls’ if you in such a situation educate your family you can have natural friends and groups galore, but you have to go back home. Having that negativity will affect you so speak to them tell them why you do it and what it really means to you so you can feel that support from them.

Just my two cents.

Bye for now. 👋

Effects of Rain on Natural Hair, Going Back To My Roots, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

Naturalistas – Rainy days are better spent in a doek…

Happy First of June everyone!! 😀

So, Winter is here and hopefully the rain is on its way as well. South Africans would know just how much we yearn for that rain! I would love any form of moisture for our country may it be rain, mist, fog ANYTHING just to quench the thirst.. but unfortunately my hair doesnt! 😦

As we all know pure rain water is very good for our hair its known as “soft water”, treating our hair with such water would be amazing just the sound of it makes my hair curl! Okay lame joke, but anyway. Rain water is not as pure as we all think it is. It contains alot of metals, chemicals, basically pollutants that can strip your hair and promote everything a naturalistas does not want for their hair.

Okay, so I came up with the idea of writing about this because a few days ago on my way to varsity (yes, I experience alot of things while walking to varsity XD ) it started drizzling and I had my umbrella with me. Me being EXTRA I had my hoodie on and my umbrella over my head, guys it was only drizzling. Since going natural I am VERY concious about my hair to the point where it annoys my family 😛 . For some reason I knew subcionsiusly that I need to protect my hair from the rain. I got to varsity and done research to unpack what the effects of rain might have on my hair.

In our modern world loads of development is taking place, and this directly and indirectly affects us – if you think it didn’t isten to this! As we all know pollution such as carbon dioxide, nitrogen oxide is emitted by cars, buildings, etc. and this is absorbed by the clouds producing Acid Rain (a.k.a “hard water”). Okay, so you see those old yet beautiful buildings in Cape Town city they usually have those brown lines on them caused by rain. If that’s what rain does to buildings imagine what it could to your beautiful fragile locks!

Scales on hair shaft

The hair shaft is made up of scales that should naturally lay flat, and hard water makes them lift. Resulting in you loosing moisture faster, your hair being more tangled because its becomes rough, it attracts more dirt because it would be difficult to rinse all the product out of your hair since it gets trapped in those scales. It strips out all the natural oils that makes your hair shiny and promotes hair growth.. and this leads to other problems that leads to other problems.

So how to you repair your hair? Well, the best answer would be to use soft water to counter act but since that is awfully scarce, we could use distilled water (need I say more?). Oil treat, oil treat, oil treat and replenish those natural oils. Furthermore, you could also use apple cider vinegar in order to counter the alkalinity of the rain water and close those scales girl. ❤

Prevention is better than cure. So cover up your beautiful locks this winter! 🙂

“A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life” – Coco Chanel ❤ :*

END Patriarchy, South Africa's Current Situation, STOP Violence Against Women and Children, Women For Women

I am a woman – Laetitia Piers

South Africa’s #CurrentSituation is a global and on-going problem. Women (including girls) are being violated, killed and raped for just that – being a woman.

Everyone knows about someone, may it be a friend, family member, even ourselves that has been violated in this way or even killed by these monsters we call men. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying all men are monsters, I know a few men that I am proud to say are my role models. I strive to have a man like them in my children’s lives one day. ❤

I am a woman and I am afraid to do whatever I want – I have restrictions. I cannot dress the way I’d like because I don’t want to draw attention and as people say ‘give men a reason’ to violate me or approach me. A man’s view of women should change it all comes down to patriarchy, the workplace, SOCIETY in general.

To voice my concerns on this matter I decided to put it in a poem. I am in no way, form, or means a poet. These words have just repeatedly been in my head for the past week and I decided to put it on paper. As Anele Mdoda said it all starts with a discussion and talking about issues, it’s just a STEP in the right direction. So here goes;

I am a woman

I am a woman, I procreate life

I am a woman

I procreate life, but I am not appreciated

I am a woman

I am naturally beautiful, but I am not allowed to show that I am

I am a woman

Therefore, I should conform to society and cover up

I am a woman

Therefore, if I don’t conform I am giving men reason to violate me

I am a woman

Therefore, men have the right to show me unwantedly that I am desirable to them

I am a woman

Therefore, I am not allowed to enjoy walking alone at night

I am a woman

Therefore, I am not allowed to enjoy travelling alone

I am a woman

Therefore, I feel oppressed

I am a woman

Therefore, I don’t like being who I am

I am a woman

Therefore, I am raped

I am a woman

Therefore, I am killed

I am a woman

Therefore, I should be submissive to a man

I am a woman

Therefore, I should protect my man

I am a woman

Therefore, I cover up my wounded body and soul

I am a woman

Therefore, I will never be equal in a man’s eyes

I am a woman

Therefore, men feel they have a right to my body

I am a woman

I am woman, I procreate life

I am woman

#RaiseAwareness #STOPViolenceAgainstWomen #SouthAfricasCurrentSituation

It starts with YOU. Women out there should start supporting each other stop criticising each other. Some girls are being raped on a daily basis, but are too afraid to speak up because of they afraid they might be blamed for it. Listen, be aware this is real life!

I am very passionate about this and I hope that this will help a little girl or a woman out there. Far-fetched I know, but it’s a step in that direction.

Bye for now.


Going Back To My Roots, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey, People's Perception on Natural Hair

My view on why girls straighten their hair …

It’s been more than a month since My Big Chop: A preview of my “Big Day! 😀 Throughout this month I have learnt so much about what people think of natural hair in general. Especially, black natural hair ‘it’s not neat’ or ‘it’s not normal’. I have a very short TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro) and I love wearing it, I never put a doekie on it throughout this month at varsity, or even when going out I proudly wear my afro I love it. ❤

You are a Queen and your mane is your Crown – Flaunt it ❤

However, there are some people who don’t love it as much as I do. Yes, this is expected when making such a big change to your physical appearance and doing something out of the ordinary even if it means colouring your hair purple! Well, they make it known to me because of the looks they give me and the things they say to me. On the other hand, thanks to those people on the street and my friends and family for all the sweet words means a lot ❤ .. Just what I need during this big change in my life.

From the get go on the day I cut my hair my mother came home and told me that my hair doesn’t look nice and I asked her what you mean as she said she’s just being honest I laughed it off and said I don’t care lol but she has since accepted my hair (she didn’t know I was going to cut it – maybe that’s why she was so surprised XD ).

Family members, on the other hand, keep asking me why I did it even though it has been a month now and that I have a ‘korrel kop’. Now, don’t get me wrong I know they mean it as a joke but now younger ones heard this and have been calling me it and I must admit it does hurt but then I just remind myself why I’m doing it.

On another occurrence, I was walking about 3 weeks ago to university, along
the road construction is taking place and the guys working there are always kind and greets me and I obviously greet back it’s just in my nature. However, on this day I was walking with my head down and one of these guys greeted me and said: “Morning” I looked up and greeted him back you won’t believe what he asked me: “Oh are you a coloured?” I asked him: “What??” and he repeated his question I said: “Yes, why you asking me that??” and he said: “Your hair is so short so I thought…” I just walked on I couldn’t believe what that man said. I don’t know how to feel about that incident but it’s just another depiction of what people think of women. They have this perception of what a woman should look like before they talk to you or get to know you they make inferences about who you are by looking at your physical appearance and it’s really sad.

I cut my hair and now have an afro and now I don’t physically ‘qualify’ as being myself, as being my own culture??

#BlackisBeautiful #GoingBackToMyRoots #HairGoals

As a young woman, I made a decision that was for myself which is not what most woman can say at this age. We are pressurised and wanting to be like this and that one because it’s what society and guys like. That’s all good and well (if it’s what you prefer) but if a guy doesn’t like you for who you are then he doesn’t deserve you girl, don’t try and be something that you are not.

‘Pitte kop’, ‘korrel kop’, ‘brush your hair it doesn’t look right’, is why I damaged my hair with a flat iron for more than 15 years of my life. No one wants to hear these words every day it definitely dampens your self-esteem and makes you feel like you don’t belong, you doing something wrong.
Think before you talk  ‘Words Are Powerful’ when it is uttered it can’t be taken back.

You don’t have to change a thing the world should change its heart ❤ – Alessia Cara
This song motivated me to do this and whenever I get a look, a stare or a harsh word because of my hair I listen to it and it makes me realise that I’m beautiful just the way I am. ❤ 🙂

Big Chop, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

One Month Update on my Natural Hair Journey.. <3

This month I have taught myself so much about who I am, and I am extremely proud of myself and how I had the courage to do this with my hair.
I am a ‘girly-girl’ as I call myself so often, lol but I am proudly so. With that being said my hair was my everything because it was part of who I am and the girly persona was portrayed with my hairstyles, my hair was a part of my image and my dress code. But now “it’s just hair” like literally, I’m not saying forget about it, take care of it and nurture it but don’t let it determine who you are as a person.


When I cut my hair I thought this will change who I am as a person, it actually did change who I am it made me a better version of me! I am more confident and my hair makes me believe that I am able to make bold decisions. Cutting my hair was one of the boldest things I have EVER done. Many people told me they didn’t think I’d be able to do this. Okay, guys sorry I am babbling too much… XD

In my next blog, I will talk about the reactions I got from my family, friends and even strangers on my hair. However, this is an update on my hair lol. As I said in my previous blog my hair will love me for big chopping and apparently she really does! 😀

My hair has been growing slowly but it is fuller and much healthier than before. Looking at the pictures above you can see there isn’t much difference in length but along my edges, you can see the fullness, so I think my hair is just repairing itself now before it decides to grow in length. But girl, I’m waiting patiently on you! (I’m enjoying this length so much now

My daily routine is very simple I watched Daye La Soul’s video on Hair Types and Textures (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkWhewD0AWc) and learnt more about my hair type and I found that the LOC (Leave-in, Oil, Cream) method is best for me because I have very dry hair, thick strands, and dense hair.

LOC Method

So I spritz it with water, then I apply some Micro-Keratin leave in mixed with Placenta, then some Avocado oil or coconut oil and lastly, Auntie Jackie’s curling custard in circular motions onto my hair. Or I just comb it all out and rock my TWA! 😛
Then I use some gel and apply it to my edges/baby hairs using a toothbrush.
Currently, this is the only method I use until it is long enough to do some cute styles which I can’t wait for. ❤
Thanks for taking the time to read this… ❤

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’

Big Chop, Natural Hair, Natural Hair Journey

My Big Chop: A preview of my “Big Day”

So I am sitting here about to cut my hair, but I’m waiting for the proper size comb that I want to cut my hair with. I’m starting to hesitate as to whether it’s really necessary and if I’m not short enough already.
Your hair as a girl/woman as I’m turning 24 (I’m still young at heart so saying that is a bit scary LOL) is your femininity it shouldn’t be though because your hair shouldn’t determine who you are as a woman and how you are portrayed and treated!
Cutting or removing that feminism can be a very scary step for any woman. I’ve watched many big chop videos and ladies started crying because they looked like a man or was scared of what people would say about this new look. On the other hand, there were ladies who loved their new look and embraced the journey. Some ladies start from transitioning and some start after the big chop it’s all dependent on how damaged your hair is. I started with transitioning, I spoke about it in my previous blog Going Back to My Roots. I transitioned for 2 months but the plan was always to cut it all at some stage.
So, as I’m sitting here waiting for my cousin to get the clippers and the right size comb I wonder what will my view on my hair be. I can be confident now and say I’ll love it either way but like my mom says “your hair frames and ‘makes’ your face”. So will this new look suit me? Will it ‘frame’ my face the way I’m hoping it will?
Well, its  risk I have to take to start my natural hair journey the right way and get rid of this damaged hair like the girls say in their vlogs “it’s just hair”.

Before the big chop

So I cut my hair eventually approximately 5 hours after I typed up the previous section.
That gave me ample time to contemplate and I did very much so, to a point where I was thinking to myself this is unnecessary how am I going to manage my TWA but thank goodness for YouTube videos that won’t be a problem. ❤
I waited for my cousin but he ended up saying he needs to fix his car and I being a very stubborn and impatient girl decided to do it myself. I had a smart idea to cut my hair with a scissor first. Yeah, you can tell I didn’t know what I was doing and cut the left side of my head way too short. Wish I knew before DIM (Doing It Myself) to not pull my hair when cutting it. It shrunk back so much and yeah then I realised there was a whole in my head pointed out by my grandmother. XD
Anyway, I used a size 4 comb for the clippers and cut away… Seeing and feeling my hair fall was a bit of a shock I was starting to giggle repeatedly asking myself “what are you doing” LOL!
I’m going to be honest, and say I didn’t like it at first (more so when my sister’s daughter asked me to cut her hair as well she also wants to look like a boy!) but after a good wash and applying some oils, it was looking as beautiful as I expected!

After the big chop

I love my hair and I’m going to make the best of it! Won’t have to stand hours in front of the mirror anymore before varsity hehe at least for a few months LOL. 😀

Essentially, just take the risk and do whats best for your hair. Your hair and yourself should have a relationship if you treat it right it will treat you even better! 🙂

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’ ❤ – Coco Chanel

Big Chop, Natural Hair, Uncategorized

Going Back to My Roots

Growing up I always hated my hair. Let me rephrase, not while growing up this actually ended in November 2016 when I started realizing how gorgeous girls looked with their natural hair. On university I always admired them. Their hair looked healthy, shiny just extremely beautiful now this would make me sound envious. Well maybe I was, but it made me realize if they can love their hair this much, I can too. Okay let me take it back a notch.

My mother took care of my hair very well she didn’t relax it much and it was always neatly plaited for school and church so my hair was growing healthily. When I was about 5 years old my grandmother took it upon herself to take a hair clipper and cut my hair because at the time I had sores on my head but my mom told me she was about to take me to a clinic the next week when she got off work. Meanwhile she was using a cream to ease the itch and resolve the problem. Long story short my hair was gone and my mom struggled to get my texture back to  the way it was. Anyway, as I grew older I noticed other girls’ hair those girls in my class and my friends with the sleek hair and I wanted that leading to me relaxing and blowing and dyeing and straightening to the point where I even used an ordinary clothing iron to straighten my hair. I was obsessed. I wanted hair like those girls and I was going to go to all lengths to get it. While I was never aware of what I was doing to my hair, my authenticity, my culture, my self esteem, my ME!

I made myself believe that my hair only grew to a certain length (not very long as I thought), because when it reached that length it would stop growing. Aah that was a big lie, what I now know is that my hair was breaking faster than it was growing. I used to live by my pony tail on high school even at university which lead to my hair breaking off so bad at the point of its growth. My aunt owns a hair salon and she does my hair like no one else can but I was always afraid to go there not because she’s a horrible person (LOL XD ) but because of how I damaged my hair I would have a recurring appointment with her and she would bring my hair back to life and I’ll just mess it up again in the comfort of my own home.

Early 2016, I bought myself a flat iron GHD an original one at a hair salon a beautiful gold one meanwhile I don’t know how to use it so it never made my hair the way I wanted it to be. However, when my aunt and sister used it, their hair came out beautiful so it’s just me. Anyway I stopped using this GHD that I paid so much for because now I was on a new journey. A journey of self reflection and finding myself.
My mind set changed completely since I saw various natural products make headlines on my Facebook LOL! It was always there but it just started catching my eye. I told my mother about it and she just said it’s your hair do with it what you want (she says I wasted my money buying a GHD when I now want to keep my ‘kroes kop’  looking like that). XD
I decided I will do the big chop for my sisters wedding I went very short but the problem is the damaged hair was still there.

The day after the big chop.

My sister had a  beautiful small wedding and I as her maid of honor was proud to witness it.

With that being said now my hair is still not what I would like it to be and what I know it could be so I have decided to go shorter. I don’t really care what people say about how I look I care about myself and my own well being. I do expect to get bad looks on those bad hair days but I’ll clap back with my hair on fleek days hehe! 😉

I’m not expecting my natural journey to be sunshine and blue skies but I’m ready to do the MAJOR CHOP and get it started I’m sure my hair will love me for it.
Thanks for taking time out to read my first introductory blog (long I know LOL sorry) I hope you will enjoy sharing this journey with me 🙂 ❤

‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life’ – Coco Chanel